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The State Of Affairs

Rethinking Infidelity - a book for anyone who has ever loved

By Esther Perel

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Psychotherapist and TED talk speaker challenges us to understand infidelity, and how couples can survive it: a must-read for anyone who has ever loved.

***NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER***

Is there such a thing as an affair-proof marriage? Is it possible to love more than one person at once? Why do people cheat? Can an affair ever help a marriage?

Infidelity is the ultimate betrayal. But does it have to be? Relationship therapist Esther Perel examines why people cheat, and unpacks why affairs are so traumatic; because they threaten our emotional security. In infidelity, she sees something unexpected - an expression of longing and loss.

A must-read for anyone who has ever cheated or been cheated on, or who simply wants a new framework for understanding relationships.

'Esther Perel does nothing short of strip us of our deepest biases, remind us of our purpose in connecting as lovers, and save relationships that might otherwise sink into the sea-all with even-handed wisdom, fresh morality, and wise prose. Thank heavens for this woman.' - Lena Dunham

'Beautiful. A brilliantly intelligent plea for complexity, understanding, and - as always - kindness.' - Alain de Botton

'She's the guru on relationships... she's the first person I ask for advice' - Cara Delevingne

'Wisest sex therapist we ever did meet. Her new book, THE STATE OF AFFAIRS, proposes a new perspective on infidelity' - GRAZIA

'This is a must-have for all married couples and has completely changed my thinking.' - SUNDAY TIMES STYLE

Biographical Notes

Psychotherapist Esther Perel is recognized as one of today's most insightful and original voices on modern love. Fluent in nine languages, she holds a therapy practice in New York City and serves as an organizational consultant for Fortune 500 companies around the world. Her celebrated TED talks have garnered more than 18 million views and her bestseller Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence became a global phenomenon translated into 24 languages. Her second book The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity is due out October 2017 published by Yellow Kite in the UK and Harper Collins in the US. Esther is also an executive producer and the host of the Audible original audio series "Where Should We Begin?" which launches on iTunes Autumn 2017.

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  • ISBN: 9781473673540
  • Publication date: 12 Oct 2017
  • Page count: 336
  • Imprint: Yellow Kite
'Perel's beautiful new book asks us to pause and examine our prejudices and assumptions around affairs - and to hold off on our usual knee jerk attempts to approve or condemn. She wants, first and foremost, that we understand why infidelity happens and what really occurs when it does. Anyone who thinks they understand the topic already needs to read this book urgently. Perel's work amounts to a brilliantly intelligent plea for complexity, understanding and-always-kindness.' — Alain de Botton
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